Are You Okay? Day: How to Start the Conversation on Suicide Prevention

Today is Are You Okay? Day, and it’s a great opportunity to shine a light on a really tough topic: suicide. It can be a difficult and distressing subject, but it’s one that we need to talk about more openly.

The Story Behind R U OK? Day

R U OK? Day was started by Gavin Larkin in 2009 after losing his father to suicide in 1995. Gavin wanted to create a movement to prevent other families from experiencing the same pain by encouraging people to check in on each other. It’s since grown into a national day that reminds us all of the vital role we can play in preventing suicide—not just professionals, but everyone.

Suicide Prevention is Everyone’s Responsibility

The heart of the R U OK? the message is simple: asking someone how they’re doing can save a life. Suicide knows no boundaries, and the stats are stark: in Australia, there were over 3,000 deaths by suicide in 2022—about nine people a day. These numbers highlight the importance of having open and honest conversations about mental health.

Breaking Down Myths Around Suicide There are a lot of misconceptions about suicide, and it’s important to challenge them:

“People who talk about suicide are just seeking attention.”
This isn’t true. Anyone talking about suicide is likely in distress and should be taken seriously.

“Suicides happen without warning.”
Many people show warning signs, such as withdrawing from social activities or expressing feelings of hopelessness.

“Only people with diagnosed mental illnesses die by suicide.”
While mental illness is a risk factor, anyone can be at risk—often due to life stresses or traumatic events.

“Asking about suicide will put the idea in their head.”
Talking openly about suicide doesn’t increase the risk. In fact, asking directly can make someone feel heard and supported.

How You Can Help If you’re worried about someone, here are some simple steps to take:

• Ask directly: “Are you thinking about suicide?” It might feel uncomfortable, but clarity is key.
• Avoid judgemental language, like “You’re not going to do something silly, are you?” This can come across as dismissive.
• If they say yes, work with them to stay safe and connect them with professional help. Following up later is also crucial—it shows you care.

Resources and Support There are many resources out there if you want to get more comfortable with these conversations. Mental Health First Aid, Lifeline, and other organisations offer programs on how to talk about suicide safely and effectively. It’s a good idea to familiarise yourself with these if you’re supporting someone or want to be better prepared in the future.

Remember, suicide is a complex and deeply personal issue, but starting a conversation could make all the difference. Keep checking in on those around you, and don’t be afraid to ask, “Are you okay?”

If you or someone you know needs immediate help, contact Lifeline or the Suicide Call Back Service.